How to Create an Abundance in Your Life
An Interview with International Bestselling Author Paul Edwards.
Paul Edwards is the host of ‘Influencer Networking Secrets’ Podcast, a Speaker, Coach and Entrepreneur. I connected with him via LinkedIn over mutual business interests, podcasts, outlooks on life and how to create an abundance in your life.
One thing that really resonates for us both is that how you approach one thing in your life, tends to be how you approach everything. For example, you start making excuses not to go to the gym and soon you’re making excuses not to go to certain events you have scheduled, and excuses start popping up for everything, it becomes a habit and a personality trait. Another example is when you are disciplined e.g. in business, then you tend to be disciplined with your workouts and scheduling.
Which is why it’s important to develop certain personality traits and be really mindful of others that have a negative impact on yourself, your family, friends, business, and others. To work on both your strengths and weaknesses from physical to mental; there’s a parallel between them.
Paul also touches on radical generosity and developing your generous side and how to do that. He’s not talking money but actions anyone and everyone can do beginning right now!
How you approach one thing in your life tends to be how you approach everything, what’s your take on this?
Paul: Well, certainly in the case of what I write about, and what I speak about, I'm trying to get to the whole person. And to emphasize that I'll just pull an example from my own life: You and I have a lot in common, both being in fitness and in particularly, in competitive fitness and even more particularly in the world of competitive bodybuilding.
But we also understand instinctively the value and exposure and opportunities created by being involved in civic life, such pageants, which is more on the leadership side and performance and exhibiting your abilities for the world to see.
And, of course, there's all the other facets of life, there's the intellectual life. I'm an amateur Bible scholar and I'm a voracious reader, as I'm sure you are. So what I want to emphasize in my book, with regard to the concept of radical generosity, is hitting all six or seven of these buttons, as consistently as you can, because that's what's going to lead to this overflow of generosity being brought back to you.
Eve: I love the idea of the what you're saying and that the energy you're putting out is really does come full circle and back to you. So it's being careful about what energy you're putting out there. Because like does attract like. Are you putting out positive energy or putting out negative energy.
What are the some of the ways to be generous and create an abundance of generosity that aren’t based around giving money to charity?
Paul: There's so many, but for the sake of brevity, I'll just mention a few here.
One of them is is for your audience's benefit. They're actually listening to it right now. And I call it pro bono publicity. This is basically where instead of going out and talking about how terrific your product or your service or your business is, you start just pumping it up for other people. You create a media platform or an opportunity, an expo, or any number of ways you could do it. That gives people that gives entrepreneurs and business owners an opportunity to get out there and interact with the public. Because as I'm sure you know, even and I'm sure as anybody else knows, the more, the more you exhibit and expose the talent, the ability, the profession that you have, the more conversations that creates, and the more conversations you create, the more prospects in there, and therefore the more sales.
Eve: Right, and it's getting that sense of community. And at the end of day business is just relationships. And it, it works well on good relationships. That's why Customer service is so important and having those conversations with people, whether you whether it's by having a telephone number that's visible on your website, so people can contact you, whether it's an email, and then the same in your personal life, it's just being available to to others and being there to help them and support them and encourage them. So works both on the personal and on the business level.
Paul: Oh, absolutely and I as a matter of fact, that's, I'm glad you brought that up. Because one of the things that I have done lately that is bringing me more joy and nourishment to my soul, than anything I've done in quite some time is showing up on Thursday date nights at the church we attend here in Olympia, Washington, for the young adults service. So I'm now sort of in the in the middle age category, I'm pushing 40 in a year or two and there's all these younger men and women aged 18 to 29. You know, the the late term millennials, and some of the early Generation Z people are starting to pop up in this now. And I just get to go and be a friend and a listening ear and you know, if they if they are seeking advice or seeking feedback on something, I get to go and offer that to them. It's a wonderful experience.
Eve: That's awesome. Again, it’s working on the generous side and just helping others which is so key. I think a lot of people are scared about helping others, about sharing their skill sets, rather than realizing how empowering it is and how it just helps grow your own skill sets as well as others. So it's all about sharing.
Paul: Yes! I'd like to say I came up with this quote, Eve, but it actually belongs to a friend of mine. And all of a sudden, for some reason, I guess this is that the onset of middle age, I'm forgetting his name. But, you know, when I was young, I used to say one day, I'd like to make a million dollars. And this person, it's come to me, Lawrence McNair, he’s a good friend of mine. And he said, when I was young, I said I'd like to make a million dollars and now I don't say that, I say I'd like to provide a million dollars worth of service. And he said, you see the the distinction you make there is that the million dollars is the result of being a million dollar provider. A million and it's just so helpful.
Eve: Because one side of it, when you're talking about I'd like to make a million dollars is very internal, it's all about the “I’s”, whereas when you're looking at it as providing what are you offering to others, and that is the end result, the money coming back from my initial result of helping others and providing solutions. I love it.
Paul: Precisely. And if you go out there, for example, I talked about in another chapter of the book, I call it “be a magnet, not a pusher”. Magnets attract money effortlessly. Well, it's not like you sit there passively, and nothing happens. It's just you don't do all of the stuff that historically and what's now being spoofed, in cultures, you know about sales people, you don't do all of the riding roughshod over people and pushing past them and, saying, “Give me your money” and haranguing them into into becoming a customer. Instead, you create this sort of gravitational pull that draws them to you. Very often they come not as a result of anything you're doing directly with them, but as a result of a recommendation they get from somebody else who knows you. That just totally reframes and sets you in a category all by all by yourself.
Eve: Awesome. Okay, so this is a bit of a jump because it's a short show, and I really wanted to touch on this quickly as well, because we were talking before going on air as well. So we're talking about the generous side, we were talking about everything, how everything pulls into play, how everything is creating this balance in life. And you told me off air about the physical parallel? What about working out in a balanced way and how that affects so many other areas in your life beyond the physical as well.
When we talk about working out in a balanced way, what does that mean to you?
Paul: Well, I'll give you this most recent example, because I'm six foot two, which means I'm very prone to stooping and slumping shoulders and sitting poorly in chairs. But what I discovered was that I had never really worked my lower trapezius muscles. You don't think to work those because if you're training for Men's Physique, which is the category I compete in, you don't do a lot of showing of your back. It's mainly the front and the sides, you do do one back pose, but what people are focusing on when you do that is normally the V taper of the masculine frame. However, once I started working them (lower traps), I have had such better time walking upright, holding my head up high, not not slouching or stooping my shoulders and sitting better in chairs. and a variety of other exercises have also become a lot better. I've done a lot better building of my shoulders and chest, which I'm among the the minority with men, I don't have a naturally huge upper body and chest and shoulders, so I have to really work to develop them. And all of that is to say, just by working this one muscle group and not neglecting it; you know, in one of your episodes, you said “Don't focus just on the body parts that are cosmetically pleasing”. For the men, this is like the biceps and all that. But also work on the parts that you don't show or aren't even really very visible, until you get down to like, you know, eight or eight or 7% body fat for a show. But even then they do far more stabilizing and reinforcing and enabling of the other muscle groups to function properly.
Eve: I love that. And I think, again, it’s just another one of those things that just transfers into everything. It's about working on your strengths and your weaknesses. So that you have this balance, doing the things you don't like doing, as well as the things you do like. We all have exercises we like and ones we really don't like. And it's the ones we don't like doing the ones we need most. It's the same in everyday life, whether there's something you don't like doing in business, I hate doing the accounting, but it still needs to be done. I love the creative side. But that's not going to be a balanced business if I do no accounting and all creative. I just love the discipline that working out provides. Especially, I think I've noticed a lot of entrepreneurs and business owners that are really performing on a really high level, tend to be working out on a high level as well. Like you were saying you're training for a Men's Physique competitions. So I think that they’re all really good life skills to be to be garnering and to be harnessing. Because once you start getting on lazy on one thing, we are coming full circle here, that laziness, quitting and excuses starts to creep into other areas of your life too.
Paul: Yes, yes. And it's not to say, you know, that what we have to do is spend copious amounts of time doing the things that we hate. It's just to develop a degree of I wouldn't even call it fluency, but just conversational about ability with them, that you're able to interact with them to a sufficient point that you can understand generally, what is going on, what needs to happen. You know, accounting as I dislike as much as you do. But we have to understand what's going on there, we have to be able to do basic things like a P & L statement and a balance sheet. We have to have a degree of conversational aptitude with them. Or we have to get lucky and have a really good accounting friend or relationship that we can rely on. And in my estimation, you should probably do both of those.
Eve: Absolutely. Tell me more about your book that really delves a lot deeper into everything we've been talking about.
Paul: Yes, “Business beyond Businesses”, is the name of my international bestseller on Amazon. And it's available also on my website. But we are in the stages of starting to appear on a lot of podcasts. We're working towards some radio and TV appearances as well. So I'm excited to bring that out and give the audience a chance to see where it is I specialize.
Eve: Links to the book as well as where to find Paul Edwards are below. If you're listening to podcast, you're probably someone who likes learning and reading and just grabbing as much information as possible to be the best person we can be.
Paul: That's right recently heard it said that not all readers are leaders but all leaders are definitely readers.
Eve: And that's another great quote to leave us with, thanks Paul.
Where to Find Paul Edwards
How to Gain Magnetic Influence, Meaningful Connection and Profitable Publicity by Becoming a Radically Generous Entrepreneur. More than just money-focused basics but in having "significance."
How to Learn More About Developing the Abundance Mindset:
My conversation with Paul got me thinking more about the abundance mindset and the steps involved to develop it. This is a great article: 10 Steps To Develop an Abundance Mindset by the Chopra Centre.